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Overcoming Procrastination
While it is not a incapacitating syndrome; that is, a diagnosis found in the diagnostic manual of mental disorders, procrastination is still spiteful, psychologically. It [url=http://www.gotprintsigns.com/jordanpascher/]air jordan pas cher[/url] can create mild symptoms or some that are chronic, even paralyzing. Regardless, procrastination is something that can be looked at.
Procrastination is really a form of ambivalence. This is not widely acknowledged. Ambivalence is when part of you wants something and part of your doesn't want that something. It doesn't have to be two things that directly collide. One of the "somethings" can be related to the other, just not the same, requiring a choice that is, at least [url=http://www.achbanker.com/home.php]hollister france[/url] partially, mutually exclusive. Ambivalence can be [url=http://www.orlando-apts.com/nfljerseys/]cheap nfl jerseys[/url] in our awareness, partially in awareness or totally out of awareness. This doesn't matter, because the subjective experience of it is awkwardness. This ambivalence aspect actually creates anxiety, but it is of the kind that is not usually associated with Generalized Anxiety Disorder, proper.
Procrastination happens when these problems occur [url=http://www.orlando-apts.com/nfljerseys/]cheap nike nfl jerseys[/url] in our lives and we don't want to pay attention. For example, I'm supposed to clean my room but I want to go out to play. I'll think about the former but want to do the later. The choices are about two things that are relatively bad bedfellows and sooner or later, I have to pick between the choices. I have to select one. Either one I pick will have consequences, and I know one of them will have obnoxious consequences.
I usually pick the more nice, self-serving behavior, which unthinkingly means I'm putting off choosing the "other." This looks to be procrastinating, because I'm not doing something, but in reality I'm avoiding a conflict. I am ambivalent, experiencing [url=http://www.mansmanifesto.com]doudoune moncler homme[/url] some level of disquiet and trying bargain my way past the whole thing.
Like I said before, the things [url=http://www.mansmanifesto.com]doudoune moncler[/url] we procrastinate about can be large or insignificant, in or out of awareness, and be passing or longer in time frame. Those are just the relevant details, but the dynamic is the same in each way. We usually select the more immediately gratifying behavior in the service of either moving past the conflict; [url=http://www.1855sacramento.com/woolrich.php]woolrich parka[/url] that is, making it recede from our awareness, or to just avoid the less pleasant [url=http://www.gotprintsigns.com/monclerpascher/]doudoune moncler pas cher[/url] of the two choices.
This latter dynamic is often a function [url=http://www.lcdmo.com/hollister.php]hollister france[/url] of our spontaneity. As can be seen, this quality has many ways of making itself fel, some of which are propitious, like when we procrastinate in order to glean more information before acting on something. Some dynamics are not good for us, like when we don't get that school [url=http://www.orlando-apts.com/nfljerseys/]nfl jerseys[/url] project done on time.
In order to get to the bottom of procrastination, we have to access the ambivalence. We have to "pull up" into awareness, the fullramificationsof our choices. But for the general population, to do that means we also have to do a little digging. You see, ambivalence doesn't just occupy one and only one space in our heads. There are plausible reasons we avoid certain things, other than they may or may not be more demanding to do than something else. Sometimes it's about not wanting to express a concern or feeling, such as conflict. If someone asks you to do something and you feel disgruntled, [url=http://www.vivid-host.com/barbour.htm]barbour uk outlet[/url] it is implausible you will [url=http://www.getconversational.com]hollister france[/url] accommodate with their request. So, you don't, on the surface, which is about not dealing with your personal state, expressing yourself and later resolving ambivalence. The superficial behavior then looks like procrastinating, when in fact, its just about avoiding conflict (which is probably at the heart of ambivalence in most cases).
For a more in-depth explanation of Procrastination, see the following web page.
-Dr. Griggs

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